When we are treated unfairly or unjustly we try our hardest to understand why someone would treat us that way and when we have been told that we get what we deserve or that everything that happens to us is our own fault, we look for what we did to cause it. If this brainwashing is done well, then when we are beaten black and blue, we believe that we did do something to deserve it. We will even look for what we did to deserve it. But the truth is that the way people treat us is about them.. not about us.
Darlene Ouimet Author of Emerging From Broken The beginning of hope for Emotional Healing
Memoirs of a survivor 